First Dibs

It’s one of the most annoying phrases known to mankind and yet it doesn’t deter people from using it. Due to the frequency and intent of those that use this phrase it is also becoming one of the most dreaded 4 words to hear, and no, I’m not referring to “the baby isn’t yours”. Okay, admittedly, that might be a bit scarier to hear from one’s spouse but this is a distant 2nd.




These words are “I’m not like that” and if you guessed it from reading the title then consider yourself smarter than the average bear, Yogi (the average intention span of humans is 3 words that’s why Obama’s slogan was “yes we can”).




However irrelevant, redundant, and unnecessary these words are they frequently come up in gender discussions.




These are some of the reasons why “I’m not like that” is stupid to say in a gender related discussion.





1. You are not the center of the universe – I know for those of you that use this slogan this might be a bit startling but you are not the center of the universe. There is an entire would outside of you, observe it.





2. Doesn’t change the facts - You, “not being like that” is usually of no relevance to the topic at hand nor does it invalidate the claims made. If you’re a man saying these things in gender related topics, stop! You are only validating the claims made against men by doing so. If you are a woman saying “I’m not like that” it is no indication that you aren’t like that nor does it address those women that are like that. I mean, what does it matter that you aren’t like that? Do you realize how often innocent men have gone to prison for false charges of abuse or rape? They weren’t “like that” but it didn’t change the fact that they suffered.





3. We hear it all the time – I know that you think that when you say it, it is the most clever and innovative remark known to man but it isn’t. You may believe you’re a rare case but so do the other billion people that say the exact same things. The fact that you’re the 1000th person this week to tell us “I’m not like that” indicates that you are similar to the other people saying so.






4. Sometimes you are “like that” - Many women may not approve of misandry (the hatred of males,) for example, or they may claim to be against feminism but are more than happy to receive the benefits of misandry and side with misandric people when they desire to elude responsibility for a personal failing. Unfortunately, many men are more than happy to give women special benefits and side with feminists/misandric minded people and place all the blame upon other men. Their complicity makes them “like that” in their own way.





5. It's dismissive and deceptive - Saying this or variations of this (e.g. not all women are like that!) is like feigning an apology without actually accepting any personal guilt or responsibility. It just seems so insincere. If you don't feel responsible or guilty then don't apologize and if you do feel responsible or guilty then "not all _ being like that" is irrelevant when discussing gender related topics like the family court system.




Anyways, I hope misandrists have an appetite because they will get their just desserts and when it happens I wonder how many women will demand that men do something to fix it?
And “it” will likely be their faults!



How many of them will truly be sorry for the damages they’ve caused the lives of others and/or the damages that were caused to the lives of others because of women?



Why apologize without believing you are wrong? If you believe you are wrong and are truly sorry what difference does “not all women being like that” make? It just appears like a dismissive and deceptive statement to make.



Since many women have been complicit with profiting from feminism and misandry, I wonder how complicit they will be to be caught in the fallout. Even men that aren’t like that or aren’t part of the problem suffer; so when women that “aren’t like that” or “aren’t part of the problem”(whether sincerely or not) suffer they shouldn’t be shocked.



If you’re a man and ignore the warnings that feminism has laid out for you even if you aren’t like that don’t be shocked if you suffer the fate of other men that aren’t like that neither.






Disclaimer: Read between the lines; this doesn't give you or anyone else a right to stereotype or generalize people but if your statements are factual then that's what they are and people should be no more offended by you telling the truth than they are by your statements being true.