Breaking up The majority of divorces (60% to 82% depending on the western country) are commenced by women. So who is it that can't keep to a commitment?

Lies and Infidelity A genetic study I was involved in revealed that one in seven of us misnamed our genetic father. That's 12% of us getting it wrong when we say who our real father is. (Just how much do you look like your father - are you, poor reader, one of the one-in-seven who has been lied to all your life?) Bear in mind that this does not include those many cases where our mother was caught out and we know that our blood-father was not the man who brought us up; it does not include the cases where our mother was caught and a divorce ensued, with us subsequently knowing a different father to the man she was married to when we were conceived.

When all those cases are added in as well, the figure must be at least 15% of us are not fathered by the man our mother was living with at the time. To then think that only 15% of women have affairs is ridiculous - that would mean every affair resulting in a pregnancy. Surely, at least half the women having affairs manage to not get pregnant: which means well over 30% of women have affairs. Astounding, I know .. but there is the mathematics!

Marriage Even in these 'enlightened' days of 'equality' where women can feel free to suggest marriage, it is far more men who propose marriage than women. I don't even need to quote a study on this one: just ask a poll of your friends. It is men who look for commitment (but often don't find it).

I can safely say I’ve been fucked over by every guy I’ve dated. & while most people just say that, I’ve been ridiculously fucked over. Like disgustingly. Maybe every single guy I’ve dated is a dickhead, but it’s hard for me not to draw conclusions about the male gender when dickheads are the only guys I’m familiar with. & I’m pretty sure it’s worse being cheated on with lots of people rather than just one person for an extended period of time. It’s way dirtier, & It’s with more people – like the guy didn’t feel bad at all after the 1^st chick? It’s gotten to the point now that when I’m on dates with a guy I have to remind myself never to believe anything he says. If he says he really likes me, I remind myself he’s probably after 1 thing. If he tells me I’m beautiful, he’s also only saying that because he’s after 1 thing, & you should never get too excited about it. & the worst ones are when he tells you how he’s been fucked over so many times before, & how he’d “never hurt you”, how much he respects girls & that he “loves you”. Alarm bells always go off when I hear those ones now! & why would you lie about where you were until 3 in the morning if didn’t involve some other girl? & the words of some random relationship therapist aren’t really enough to convince me all my previous conclusions are wrong… & the relationships i’m in usually end because i’ve been cheated on, or he’s been seeing 1 (or 5) other girls while he’s been with me, so i can’t really think they would suffer all that much heartache when it ended…

I can safely say I’ve been fucked over by every guy I’ve dated. & while most people just say that,

Oh you poor dear, you are such a victim..

The average human being would be of the opinion that maybe they must be attracting or partnering up with losers, thugs or druggies but that would be just too friggin obvious wouldn't it, there are plenty of female whining and bitching sites on the web. I strongly recommend one of those..

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I can safely say I’ve been fucked over by every guy I’ve dated...

I can only pass on the relationship advice given from any experienced person or counsellor to anyone (male or female) who continually has problems with the opposite sex:

Not all the opposite sex is bad. If you think about it, that simply has to be true or humans would have died out long ago. If the only people of the opposite sex you are meeting are the bad ones, you need to change what you are doing, change what you are looking for, change yourself .. then you can start meeting those many people of the opposite sex that are no worse (but admittedly no better) than your own sex.

I am pretty sure you have not dated thousands or even hundreds of men, yet with this one statement, you just may have condemned 50% of the planet based solely on your inability to choose happiness.

Maybe every single guy I’ve dated is a dickhead, but it’s hard for me not to draw conclusions about the male gender when dickheads are the only guys I’m familiar with

Are you familiar with the term viscous cycle? Ask yourself how to stop this cycle, the answer almost always comes back to you. In fact, I think it is safe to say, you are captain of your own boat. The deckhands that share the same boat were chosen by YOU!!

@TheBgoz, are the the type of woman that asks your boyfriends if you look fat in that dress and expect them to lie to you to please you? If you are not being honest with yourself, you will attract ppl who are dishonest. Where do you fail in seeing this? You are a victim because you want to be!! Simple, is it not?

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I can safely say I’ve been fucked over by every guy I’ve dated.

You ever stop to think that maybe the men you find attractive are stereotypical assholes? That perhaps "The Big Oz" (which gives rise to thoughts that perhaps only illegal drug users fall within your limits of acceptable mates) may be representing herself in a manner that isn't conducive of finding a loving mate by placing certain criteria upon potential mates that happen to be traits of "assholes?"

Grow up and take responsibility for your poor ability to choose a mate. There are many men out there that are kind and loving and caring... Perhaps they may not all be at the end of a weed pipe, but they are there.

" it’s hard for me not to draw conclusions about the male gender when dickheads are the only guys I’m familiar with"

That's because you go after dickheads, no other reason. For every guy who acts like a dickhead to you there are at least 2 who won't. But you ignore them because they are "boring" or "pussies".

I'm sick of seeing this. Women who chase after womanizers and then complain when they womanize. Seriously, what the fuck were you expecting?

That's like buying a dog and then complaining that it barks and licks its balls all the time. Get a hamster.

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& the worst ones are when he tells you how he’s been fucked over so many times before

Isn't that just a mirror of what you've been prattling about? That would make you a "worst one" also.

It's been my experience many women like to play the downtrodden victim to use as leverage in successive relationships, so that the current boyfriend (now on the defensive) goes out of his way to prove (wining,dining, gifts and grovelling) he's not the same as those "dickheads." That's a clear demonstration of controlling behaviour on her part. It seems all men are expected to apologize (endlessly) and make reparations for the bad behaviours of a few individual men.

I think we can stop shaking a stick at this one guys and gals. pretty sure this will go nowhere, except to prove our point. That we have done enough.

"& I’m pretty sure it’s worse being cheated on with lots of people rather than just one person for an extended period of time. It’s way dirtier, & It’s with more people"

Or you could say that the idea that a person has slept with the same person in an extended affair, means that they've emotionally, very intimately connected with another human being the way you're supposed to be with your boyfriend/husband. With that one person for a whole year round. It's more about feelings, that it being dirty in this case. To have a long affair suggests you have fallen in love with someone else.

Now while I don't agree with men who cheat on their partners, them sleeping with more people perhaps suggests that while they have cheated they've been detached from the romantic feelings and therefore it's not like they've been getting emotionally connected the way you two as a couple are.

TheBgoz, I've had similar experiences - both in terms of falling in love with various women and in terms of getting hostile replies online (on a buddhist forum, no less!) when I mentioned that women as a whole seem to be very callous when it comes to dating.

I can't help but ask myself whether you were abused or bullied as a child. I know that my experiences of abuse, from both my narcissistic father and my borderline mother, led me to believe that I should only feel satisfied when I'm satisfying other people; by contrast, I would always tolerate their ways of "acting out" if they were genuinely dissatisfied with things I did (even if those things were perfectly okay). As a result, I ended up being seen as "weak", "needy" (which is surprising, as I always put my own needs last) and other things by the women I fell in love with, and I developed a healthy dose of misogyny in the aftermath.

In any event, I wouldn't feel discouraged by the angry replies if I were you.

And let us not forget another myth... Lazy, jobless men who sit at home swilling beer and hanging around with their deadbeat buddies, making the women support them, and not even giving a rat's ass about even so much as helping out around the house. In MY experience, it has been the EXACT OPPOSITE, first with my nasty, cheating filipina wife (who I divorced), then with a girlfriend who was a lazy gold digger, expecting me to simply be her "Sugar-Daddy", keeping her in a vehicle and keeping her bills paid while she sat at home and toked reefer. And she always had excuses like "I have a 7-year old", "My 20-year old is being a dick with his money", et. al. ad nauseum. These women, once I was with them, became helpless in the kitchen, bitches in the living room, pigs in the bathroom, and CLUELESS in the bedroom. Needless to say, I am VERY HAPPILY SINGLE AGAIN, and not pissing money away on a deadbeat wench.

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I can safely say I’ve been fucked over by every guy I’ve dated. & while most people just say that, I’ve been ridiculously fucked over. Like disgustingly. Maybe every single guy I’ve dated is a dickhead, but it’s hard for me not to draw conclusions about the male gender when dickheads are the only guys I’m familiar with. & I’m pretty sure it’s worse being cheated on with lots of people rather than just one person for an extended period of time. It’s way dirtier, & It’s with more people – like the guy didn’t feel bad at all after the 1^st chick? It’s gotten to the point now that when I’m on dates with a guy I have to remind myself never to believe anything he says. If he says he really likes me, I remind myself he’s probably after 1 thing. If he tells me I’m beautiful, he’s also only saying that because he’s after 1 thing, & you should never get too excited about it. & the worst ones are when he tells you how he’s been fucked over so many times before, & how he’d “never hurt you”, how much he respects girls & that he “loves you”. Alarm bells always go off when I hear those ones now! & why would you lie about where you were until 3 in the morning if didn’t involve some other girl? & the words of some random relationship therapist aren’t really enough to convince me all my previous conclusions are wrong… & the relationships i’m in usually end because i’ve been cheated on, or he’s been seeing 1 (or 5) other girls while he’s been with me, so i can’t really think they would suffer all that much heartache when it ended…

The studies on it all point to that sexists intentionally surround themselves as much as possible with people who "prove" their beliefs and fulfill their expectations. You are convinced men are trash, so you intentionally pick trash men. You are "fucking" yourself over.
Further, you hate yourself for being a woman. You are highly self-destructive, and that is not attractive to healthy men, it's attractive to abusers who want to take advantage of it. You likely have a horrible diet, terrible lifestyle, make the worst possible choices, etc. You likely either look terrible utterly, or rely on fake beauty (lies). All in all, it is probably written all over you that you are a seriously messed up woman. Healthy men do not deserve or desire such a partner, so they will not touch you. On the other hand, men who are also highly messed up will. Whether because they're desperate, or because they want to take advantage of you.
Now, back to my first point... It's true. I witness it first hand all over. People with prejudices make it impossible for people who don't support their messed up perception of reality to know them. I just ditched off two more female contacts on facebook for this exact reason. One is pro-theft, and the other is a man-hater. People like you simply push and push your BS until healthy people cannot help but walk away.

Guess what. The bad guys go after all of us. You know what the difference is between the healthy and unhealthy women? The healthy ones pick up on that the guy is trash and say no, while the unhealthy ones... Pick up on that the guy is trash, and say yes. It's all on you. Either learn to say no and start working on your self-esteem and sexism, or continue your unhealthy pattern. Whatever you choose, STFU about it already, because you're not fooling anyone but yourself with that BS. Frankly, if you have to go out and try to convince utter strangers you were the victim... You most probably weren't really the victim, but the abuser. Sometimes the "bad guy" is actually responding to an abusive wife who refuses to get off his dick no matter how much he says no.

You missed this one.

"Study Debunks Stereotype That Men Think About Sex All Day Long"
Study debunks stereotype that men think about sex all day long