My kid first; the movement a distant second. So far, I've been maintaining a constant relationship with my son, despite the onslaught from my Ex and the family court. I'll do what it takes within a legal context to preserve my relationship with my son, first and foremost. I'll worry about "defeating the system" with whatever energy and will remain, and maybe even then my happiness in my remaining years of life on this planet may take a higher priority yet. Without popular support for the father's movement or men's movement, I refuse to be the self-sacrificial lamb -- despite the fact that I have given as much as I have.